I could spend hours watching TED talks: there are so many videos of educational and inspirational value to enjoy. It’s certainly twenty minutes well spent, as you not only learn through watching, but you also feel inspired to get off your bottom and do something. It’s hard to slob out on the sofa after viewing J.K. Rowling’s famous Harvard commencement speech, for instance.
If you’ve suffered from social anxiety like I have, I’m hoping that you’ll find familiar words in the following videos, alongside inspiration and motivation to move forwards.
I’ve read a lot about this first video on anxiety websites. Amy Cuddy, a glamorous, confident social psychologist, speaks of the power of body language and faking confidence. Upon first impressions of her, you may question what she knows about low self-esteem and shyness, but the biographical revelations that she makes will change such perceptions.
|Amy Cuddy on social anxiety and faking positive body language and confidence. Image from TED.|
Susan Cain’s recent non-fiction book about being introverted in modern society has gained plenty of press attention, and it’s a superb read for those of us with social anxiety. It shows that it is perfectly acceptable to be introverted, and that there is no need to change yourself or pretend to be different.
This seems conflicting to Amy Cuddy’s message, yet I believe that faking confidence in certain situations (such as presentations) is perfectly acceptable too. Also, Cain classifies shyness as fear of judgment, and introversion as dislike of social stimulation. According to Susan Cain, our culture needs introverts for the sustenance of a thriving creative culture, and I entirely agree.
|Susan Cain on the advantages of being introverted. Her book Quiet: The Powerof Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking is superb. Image from TED.|
Thandie’s a beautiful lady. In this TED talk she discusses her feelings of otherness whilst growing up, and comes to a positive conclusion. Watch this if you’ve ever worried about fitting in, or struggled with your sense of self.
|Thandie Newton on bulimia and ‘otherness’. Image from TED.|
Matthieu is such a wonderfully smiley and inspirational Buddhist monk. He recommends, like the Stoics, to be aware of our inability to change external circumstances, and to instead focus on our inner strength. You can’t always change what’s happening to you, but you can change your perceptions.
|Matthieu Ricard on the habits of happiness, providing a stoic perspective on social anxiety. Image from TED.|
If you have social anxiety or shyness, this game is certainly worth a go. There are challenges particularly for your anxiety, and these will help you to build resilience, form goals, and face challenges. The philosophical and psychological thinking behind Superbetter is fascinating, and I can comfortably say that the game has ben really useful for me.
|Jane McGonigal, founder of Superbetter: a superb online multiplayer game to help you through your social anxiety
or shyness. Image from TED.
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