Friday, 26 September 2014

Feel-Good Fiction: The Rosie Effect by Graeme Simsion as a Mood-Boosting Sequel

The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion swiftly became one of my favourite books.get out of a rut and acted a welcome antidote to homesickness when I was living in Barcelona. I also included it in my mood-boosting and feel-good books list for the summer.
Last year it helped me

Now that the book's sequel, The Rosie Effect, is available on the shelves of all good bookshops (at least here in the UK), a follow-up review is very much required.

Could it ever be as good as The Rosie Project?  

I think expecting the sequel to be as good as the original is a bit too demanding in this case. I would certainly choose The Rosie Project as the better book, but The Rosie Effect doesn't let the author down. It also reminded me why precisely why I loved the characters. Don Tillman is a marvellous creation, and surely the best professor of genetics in literature.

What goes on

At we enter the book he's now married to Rosie Jarman, 'the world's most perfect woman', and he's soon to discover she's pregnant with his child. However, a very real question arises: can someone who struggles socially be a good partner and parent?

The book progresses from this point in all sorts of wonderful directions. We experience Don's feelings of heartbreak (in Don's own way, of course) as Rosie moves away from him, and we hope for their reconciliation. As to be expected, the book isn't without it's humour. There's the Bluefin Tuna Incident, the Playground Incident, and the Antenatal Uproar. You'll have to find out for yourself what these entail.

“I thought you were happy about having a baby."

I was happy in the way that I would be happy if the captain of an aircraft in which I was travelling announced that he had succeeded in restarting one engine after both had failed. Pleased that I would now probably survive, but shocked that the situation had arisen in the first place, and expecting a thorough investigation into the circumstances.

Don Tillman in The Rosie Effect

A long-awaited (and very much required) feel-good book

For me, the wonder of The Rosie Project was in meeting Don and Rosie and hearing Graeme Simsion's superb storytelling ability for the first time. As the sequel, however, The Rosie Effect was very welcome reading. The book made me realise that I was stressed, and I did need time to wind down, and it provided the perfect solution. It's hard to beat the feeling of knowing you have a great novel to look forward to after a day of working hard. 

If you're in need of a mood-boosting or relaxing book, pick up The Rosie Effect and try reading it for what it is: a heartwarming and uplifting story, rather than a sequel which needs to surpass the original.

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Tuesday, 23 September 2014

The Tolstoy Therapy Calendar of Wisdom: Quotes and Sayings to Nourish the Soul

I'd like to thank all of you who contributed such wonderful quotes for the giveaway at the start of this month, and I'll be using this post as a round-up of the contributions I most enjoyed.

Some of the quotations which you shared with me would certainly be worthy of a place in Tolstoy's own A Calendar of Wisdom, so I've decided to create the blog's own version. I hope you enjoy the choices as much as I have!

Tolstoy The Last Station
Christopher Plummer as Tolstoy in The Last Station.

A Selection of Your Quotes

To find mindfulness, as chosen by Paige:

"I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, ‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.'” - A Man Without a Country, Kurt Vonnegut

To get to know ourselves, as chosen by Syed

" I sit on a man's back, choking him and making him carry me, and yet assure myself and others that I am very sorry for him and wish to ease his lot by all possible means except by getting off his back. " - Writings on Civil Disobedience and Nonviolence, Leo Tolstoy

On finding your way, as chosen by Adrienne

"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself, any direction you choose." - Dr Seuss


To find joy, as chosen by Camilla:

All this time
The Sun never says
To the Earth:
“You owe me.”

What happens
With a love like that.
It lights the

- Hafiz

For self-improvement, as chosen by Felicia

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” - Leo Tolstoy

Facing the unknown, as chosen by Natalie

"Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former." - Albert Einstein

Facing low-mood and despair, as chosen by Alexandra

"Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a large intelligence and a deep heart. The really great men, I think, have great sadness on earth." - Fyodor Dostoevsky

To help make the world a better place, as chosen by John

"History will be kind to me, for I intend to write it." - Winston Churchill

On authenticity, as chosen by Arjun

"Don’t be afraid of talking nonsense- only don't fail to pay attention to it." - Wittgenstein

On living well, as chosen by Praveen

"There is no greatness, where there is no simplicity, goodness and truth." - Leo Tolstoy

Creating our Calendar of Wisdom

Do you have a small notebook of quotes, a few snippets learned by heart, or even a published anthology which you make use of during difficult times? I think we should all start working on one, and the great choices above should help get us started.

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Tuesday, 9 September 2014

Celebrating Tolstoy's 186th Birthday with a Giveaway of A Calendar of Wisdom

A portrait of Leo Tolstoy in his study by Vasily Meshkov, 1910.

Today marks the 186th anniversary of Leo Tolstoy's birth, September 9th 1828, and I felt it was only right that Tolstoy Therapy celebrates the occasion.

I was overwhelmed by the wonderful comments I received for the blog's two year birthday giveaway (I should compile your comments in a post!) and I thought something similar could work here.

The Tolstoy-related giveaway on offer is a copy of A Calendar of Wisdom, Tolstoy's collection of quotes and 'daily thoughts to nourish the soul', which was compiled over fifteen years towards the later years of his life. It's a superb collection of quotes on all manner of topics, and I know I've still got a lot to learn from it.

I wrote an article for Huffington Post Books about the book yesterday - entitled A Calendar of Wisdom: Tolstoy's Little-Known Collection of Quotes to Nourish the Soul - and remembered how great it truly is. A Calendar of Wisdom is also not as well-known as Tolstoy's other books, meaning there's perhaps less chance of you having it in your libraries!

To enter, simply share your favourite quote - it could be anything, or by anyone - in the comments box below. Whether it's philosophical, literary, or something entirely different, if it means something to you I'd love to hear it. The last giveaway was random (lucky you, Alexandra!), but this time I'll choose my favourite.

Good luck to you all! I'll be choosing a winner on Monday 15th September.

Today, why not read one or two of my top ten posts on Tolstoy?

Have a great day, and I look forward to reading your chosen quote!

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Wednesday, 3 September 2014

If You Don't Know Where to Go in Life, Try Reading War and Peace

I write a lot about Pierre Bezukhov, one of the main character's in Leo Tolstoy's War and Peace. I've suggested how he can help us to appreciate life's simple pleasures and even overcome anxiety, as a character which so many first-time readers of the Russian masterpiece find themselves relating to.

In this quick post (which I'm compiling during a break from my back-to-university work), I'll share an early section of the book which I hope some of you will find wisdom in.

How Pierre and Andrei discuss low self-esteem and a lack of direction in War and Peace

The discussion starts with Andrei asking Pierre if he's made up his mind about his career path: "Have you made your mind up? Are you going to be a cavalryman or a diplomat?" The way in which Pierre responds can't help but resound with me:

"You won't find it hard to believe I still don't know. I don't fancy either of those jobs."

Is this familiar to you too? Next Andrei and Pierre both lament the state of their lives, and Pierre contemplates the absurdity that Andrei - that friend who seems to have it all - feels the same way he does:

'It seems odd,' said Pierre, 'that you, you consider yourself a failure and your life ruined. You've got your whole life in front of you, everything. And you...'

He did not say what about you, but his tone showed how much he admired his friend, and how much he was expecting from him in the future.

Andrei counters this by simply saying, "I'm yesterday's man', and then requests that the conversation go back to Pierre.

'Why, what is there to say about me?' said Pierre, his mouth broadening in an easy-going, happy smile. 'What am I? I am a bastard.' And he suddenly blushed to the roots of his hair. Clearly, it cost him a great effort to say this. 'No name, no fortune... And really, when all's said and done...' But he didn't say really what. 'Anyway, I'm free for the time being and I'm doing all right. It's just that I've no idea what to get going on. I wanted to talk things over with you seriously.'
How many of us really know what to get going on, or what direction to choose in life? I certainly have no idea: the more I get asked what I want to do after university, the less idea I seem to have.

Here's Andrei's advice for Pierre:

You'll be all right. Choose anything, it won't make any difference. You'll always be all right, but there is one thing - stop knocking about with the Kuragins and leading their kind of life. It doesn't suit you, all that riotous living, debauchery...

As Pierre hears this, he appears "as though a happy thought had suddenly struck him", and realises that this is what he's been thinking for some time: "with this kind of life I can't make any decisions, or think anything through". Whether he succeeds in doing so at this moment is a different story, but at this point he realises that things have to change.

What Pierre can teach us about finding direction in life

Reading War and Peace takes you along with Pierre on his journey away from drunken mindlessness and tying bears to policemen (yes, really) towards a sense of purpose. It's not without a few bumps on the way, but it's wonderfully authentic.

Whether you agree or disagree with Pierre's decisions or Andrei's advice, I think that simply by considering our own dreams and opinions we've made a great start. Whether it's a start on making a decision or realising that we simply don't have to, I'd say that either options are positive.

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