Saturday, 22 September 2012

Michel de Montaigne: Self-Esteem and the Quotes on his Ceiling


The loveable philosopher himself.
Michel de Montaigne knew a lot about low self-esteem. He realised how the achievements of others can make us feel less worthy, despite being a lawyer, twice mayor of Bordeaux and a friend of the King of France.

He understood what makes us feel bad about ourselves, largely: bodily worries, the feeling of being judged by others, and intellectual inadequacy.

Montaigne was also convinced that we are are surrounded by the wrong role models, people who aren't at all like ourselves. This was spoken by a man born in 1533, but it is so applicable today. Because we can't relate to the people we're meant to look up to and aspire to be like, feelings of inadequacy are inevitable.

Although philosophers often see reason as the solution to problems, Montaigne perceived problems as being caused by our reason and over-thinking of issues.

As the body is so rarely mentioned in public, we're led to think of it as shameful. Montaigne knew a woman who ate behind a curtain for fear of being seen chewing, and a man who requested to be buried in his underpants to retain his privacy.



Montaigne's Prescription for Low Self-Esteem


We must accept the ordinary in ourselves.

We need to accept how akin we are to animals. In fact, Montaigne felt that the animals on his chateau farm surpassed humans in many ways. They're not shy, nor do they bother themselves with needless worry and anxiety. We should accept our bodies with good grace and a touch of humour.

We must open our eyes to all that counters our cultural status-quo. Travel physically or simply in your mind, and greet the diversity of the world. Socrates declared himself to be a citizen of the world, not merely Athens, and we should tell ourselves (and others if you choose to be vocal) the same.

Montaigne felt that most university graduates were "blockheads". Teach yourself and develop the skills that really matter in life: how to live well, deal with death, end a relationship, and confront anxieties (among so many others). Work on your humility and modesty, and accept your intellectual limitations. If you do this, you have no reason to feel intellectually inadequate. After all, outward symbols of intelligence are often incredibly different to reality.


Some Words of Wisdom


In his study, surrounded by a thousand books and space to pace, Montaigne had a ceiling covered in inscriptions of essential wisdom. Some of which are below, amongst other sayings of Montaigne.


"The most terrible and violent of our own afflictions is to despise our own beings"

"On the highest throne, we are seated, still, upon our arses"

"Everything is too complicated for men to understand"

"The man who thinks he knows something does not know yet what knowing is"

"Why torment yourself with worries that are outside your self control?"


Montaigne's ceiling of quotations. Image from Flickr.

2 comments:

Violet said...

He was such a wise man. Not sure about de Botton. He's a bit too glib and "talk down to the masses" for my liking. I'd add to the above wise words: Most people are too busy worrying about the impression they're making on others to even notice much about us. And "compare and despair" is not a helpful game to play. We're all unique individuals and it's much more fun to be a goat than a sheeple. Fact! I wouldn't worry about your intellectual abilities. You've got excellent grammar skills, which puts you way ahead for a start! Have faith in yourself. Be who you are. It's too much hard work trying to be what you're not. :)

Lucy said...

De Botton stikes me as rather toad-like for some reason. He's academic, but seems to lack character.

Thank you for your additions and those kind words! I'm sure there are many people - if not the majority - who struggle with self-esteem and identity during their transition to adulthood. I think having such a long history of anxiety makes acceptance difficult, but my self-esteem is certainly improving.